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Can Your Relationship Be Saved?
How To Know Whether To Stay Or Go
By Michael S.
Broder, Ph.D.
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The reviews are in...
Lonnie Barbach, Ph.D.,
Co-author of GOING THE DISTANCE: Finding and Keeping Lifelong Love."
If you are
seriously debating whether to split up or stay together, Dr. Michael Broder's
clear and logical approach will help guide you through this complicated and
difficult life decision."
Arnold A.
Lazarus, Ph.D.
Author of MARITAL MYTHS REVISITED
"...strategies to salvage and rekindle... unions
that can be saved... shows how to part company without guilt..."
Albert Ellis, Ph.D
Author of FEELING BETTER, GETTING BETTER, STAYING BETTER
"I would strongly recommend that any person who is
ambivalent about his or her relationship read this book. Promptly!"
Janet Wolfe,
Ph.D.
Author of WHAT TO DO WHEN HE HAS A HEADACHE
"...help[s] real couples solve real problems, and
provides them with clear, practical action steps to insure their
implementation..."
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Description
A wise and compassionate guide to assessing a
faltering love relationship, and answering the fundamental question asked by
the book's title: Can Your Relationship Be Saved? Dr. Broder addresses
individuals and couples in marriages, engagements, living-together and
dating arrangements or any other type of love relationship or romance --
long- or short-term, and of any sexual orientation. His 50-item "Can Your
Relationship Be Saved?" Inventory asks the right questions. But readers are
not left there. The chapters that follow lead readers in the decision making
process by gently guiding them to explore all of their options. Readers
will find direction along with the information and strategies
to help them act on their decisions.
Can Your Relationship Be Saved?
speaks directly to the painful ambivalence that results when one is on the
fence about a relationship. Dr. Broder's guidance is packed with practical
road maps and direction finders--avoiding glibness, clichés, pat answers, or
value judgments.
The
book is divided in three parts. Part I —Your Relationship — focuses on the
reader's relationship as it is now, introducing in user friendly format the
self-assessment inventory that's been used by thousands of psychotherapists,
divorce lawyers and lay people. Part II — Working Through the Curse of
Ambivalence — asks readers to evaluate three major aspects of their
relationship ambivalence: Staying vs. leaving, What if I leave? and What if
I stay? Part III — The Aftermath of Ambivalence — presents strategies to
help readers gain insight into what life may be like (a) if they build a new
life together as a couple or (b) elect to leave and thus become single once
again. Readers are carefully guided through an examination of each
lifestyle; and are offered strategies to maximize happiness-- regardless of
whether or not the current relationship survives.
Can Your Relationship Be Saved?
is warm, unabashedly upbeat and optimistic.
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From the Author
The title of this book, CAN YOUR RELATIONSHIP BE
SAVED? captures one of the most commonly explored issues that I have dealt
with in my office over the past three decades as a practicing clinical
psychologist. In addition to being so common a question, it has also been an
extraordinarily complex one for scores of individuals and couples who have
consulted with me over the years. Hopefully, this book will break it down in
a way that you will find empowers you to quickly get beyond the murkiness,
and toward a resolution of all the issues involved.
For the purpose of simplicity, I use the term
relationship throughout the book to refer to marriages, engagements,
living-together and dating arrangements, or any other type of love
relationship or romance -- long- or short-term, and of any sexual
orientation -- including those where the partners are separated or divorced,
thinking about reconciliation, or trying to justify leaving. I will use the
word partner (present or ex) to mean spouse, spouse-equivalent, lover, mate,
companion, boyfriend, or girlfriend.
This book is for you if:
- You are in a troubled
relationship (such as one that has become stormy, indifferent or one-sided)
and you are trying to decide whether to stay or leave; and what each
possible direction would entail.
- You are looking back at a relationship
that has ended, and find yourself second-guessing -- by telling yourself
things such as "if only I had _____________(fill in the blank) we would
still be happily together" and find this to be a nagging source of
discomfort.
- You are trying to understand what went wrong in a relationship
that has ended (or is ending) so that you do not repeat old patterns.
- You
are trying to understand why the relationship of someone close to you (such
as a parent, adult child or other family member or friend) might be ending
(perhaps even though it may have looked quite functional from the outside).
- You are trying to understand your behavior or attitude patterns, or those
of the people you become involved with. Perhaps then you can come to grips
with why your relationships either fail to continue, or don't seem to
provide you with the fulfillment you are seeking.
- You're finding that things
that may have attracted you to your partner before may be the very things
that now turn you off.
- You're wondering if you can benefit from
professional help, and how to find it.
- You are exploring the
issues this book addresses, either by yourself or with your partner.
- You
are a mental health professional, clergyperson, attorney, or other helper,
who is in a position to help people make decisions related to their
relationship transition, as well as to cope with the aftermath.
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