Archive for category: General

Anger, anxiety, depression, and grief are among our most common emotions. My blogs over the next few Tuesdays will deal with each of them separately and include calibrations for these emotions along with what most likely triggers them in you, by the stages. To make the best use of these calibrations, notice how your hooks in the lower stages trigger emotions that can throw you off balance in just about any part of your life. The more you can make a conscious commitment to do a better job in managing your expectations of others and events as well as choosing your battles, the more you become the master of these emotions, rather than the other way around. Read more

On this second of three blogs on parenting, let’s take a look at this crucial role by the stages of the parents:

• Stage One―Parents who themselves operate as Ones―regardless of the age of their child―may expect and encourage their children to become “parentified” (which means for the child to act in the role as the parent in one or more major ways), and thus take care of them. Read more

Since this is Valentine’s Day, I thought we’d take a look at how we view sex — an important aspect of love relationships—by the stages. Regardless of your relationship status right now, see which of these common attitudes most resonate with you. Those in quotes are verbatim accounts: Read more

Here are some examples of the most common attitudes or beliefs behind the hooks thatdisrupt your stage climb by the seven stages. Resolve, on an ongoing basis, to challenge and change any of them that continue to get in your way or hold you back. This is a crucial aspect to being in complete charge of your life.

To challenge a self-defeating belief or attitude, first ask yourself if that belief is “absolutely true.” Once you’ve established reasonable doubt as to whether the stifling belief is the truthand  Read more

The presidential debates are getting more and more interesting. However, in my opinion, there’s just one thing to be watching for at this point—how the candidates handle conflict, as conflict resolution skills is job one for anybody who would even think of pursuing that job. As the election gets closer, I’ll revisit this and break down each candidate by the stages. For now, let’s just observe the patterns of each one. Read more