What Typically Trigger Anger in You at Various Stages

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Anger, anxiety, depression, and grief are among our most common emotions. My blogs over the next few Tuesdays will deal with each of them separately and include calibrations for these emotions along with what most likely triggers them in you, by the stages. To make the best use of these calibrations, notice how your hooks in the lower stages trigger emotions that can throw you off balance in just about any part of your life. The more you can make a conscious commitment to do a better job in managing your expectations of others and events as well as choosing your battles, the more you become the master of these emotions, rather than the other way around. Read more

How Adult Children View Taking Care of Their Aging Parents

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In this third and final blog about parenting, here are some attitudes that govern how adult children at each stage view taking care of their aging parents. Those in quotes are actual verbatim statements:

  • Stage One―“What did they ever do for me?” Ones are also likely still to feel entitled to be on the receiving end, no matter how incapable their parents are of giving. Onesare least able to accept the reality of when parents die or are close to death, regardless of their age, health, or other circumstances. For Ones, it’s just about always about themselves, and how almost any circumstance that occurs makes them a “victim.” Read more

Parenting By the Stages of the Parents

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On this second of three blogs on parenting, let’s take a look at this crucial role by the stages of the parents:

  • Stage One―Parents who themselves operate as Ones―regardless of the age of their child―may expect and encourage their children to become “parentified” (which means for the child to act in the role as the parent in one or more major ways), and thus take care of them. Read more

The Key to Good Parenting

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A key to good parenting is to compliment what’s both age and stage appropriate. Consider this as a very basic guideline for ideal parenting at each stage of the child (Note: Next Tuesday’s blog will address the stages of the parents):

  • Stage One―To provide unconditional love, nurturing, care, and safety during the first year of life. Read more

Your Attitudes About Sex By The Stages

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Since this is Valentine’s Day, I thought we’d take a look at how we view sex — an important aspect of love relationships—by the stages. Regardless of your relationship status right now, see which of these common attitudes most resonate with you. Those in quotes are verbatim accounts: Read more

Attitudes for Removing a Lower-Stage Hook and Climbing to a Higher Stage

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Last week, I posted some examples of the most common attitudes or beliefs behind the hooks that disrupt your stage climb, by the seven stages. These are a few of your idealattitudes to choose for removing a lower-stage hook in any area of your life and climbing to a higher stage. Tweak them to fit you exactly and then use them as motivators whenever you need to throughout your Stage Climbing process: Read more

Attitudes or Beliefs Behind the Hooks that Disrupt Your Stage Climb

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Here are some examples of the most common attitudes or beliefs behind the hooks thatdisrupt your stage climb by the seven stages. Resolve, on an ongoing basis, to challenge and change any of them that continue to get in your way or hold you back. This is a crucial aspect to being in complete charge of your life.

To challenge a self-defeating belief or attitude, first ask yourself if that belief is “absolutely true.” Once you’ve established reasonable doubt as to whether the stifling belief is the truthand  Read more

Where to Turn for Help When Problem Solving—By the Stages

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In my practice, I have seen many— sometimes heartbreaking— examples of how people have suffered far longer and more severely than they had to, simply because they were not receiving the type of help that could be most effective for them at the time. Read more

What to Watch for In The Presidential Debates— How They Handle Conflict

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The presidential debates are getting more and more interesting. However, in my opinion, there’s just one thing to be watching for at this point—how the candidates handle conflict, as conflict resolution skills is job one for anybody who would even think of pursuing that job. As the election gets closer, I’ll revisit this and break down each candidate by the stages. For now, let’s just observe the patterns of each one. Read more

Bringing Your One Big thing to Fruition

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In last week’s blog, I gave you some tools to get into a peak state and identify the one big thing you would like to accomplish in 2012. If you missed that January 3rd post, I suggest you scroll down and give it a read.

Now it’s time to get down to business, simply by setting timelines for completing you goal and then breaking your one big thing down to small manageable pieces or sub-goals that you both can and even more importantly will do by the timetable you’ve set in order to bring your goal to fruition. Read more